Sounding Polite (Part 1)
Communicating in English isn’t as hard as many people think. Once you have a collection of common words and learn to string them together, you can pretty much begin to use English in most everyday situations. On such occasions, poor grammar or diction doesn’t always get in the way of getting the basic message across.
That being said, making sure that you sound polite or appropriate when using English is a lot harder to achieve, especially if you’ve just started learning the language. This is because all our energies go into somehow conveying our thoughts, so we sometimes fail to recognise that what we say might be too direct or offensive.
Here are some tips to help you sound more polite when speaking English.
1. Softening expressions
In some cultures, being blunt or direct is acceptable, whereas in English-speaking cultures, this is frowned upon. Therefore, it’s a good idea to use softening expressions that make what you say less direct. Examples of such expressions are I’m afraid, perhaps, I think, I reckon, maybe, I was wondering if, and to be honest.
I can’t help you.
I’m afraid I can’t help you.
I don’t know much about politics, so I can’t comment.
To be honest, I don’t know much about politics, so I can’t comment.
You should ask someone else for advice.
Perhaps you should ask someone else for advice.
Could you help her?
I was wondering if you could help her.
2. Avoiding negative words
There’s no doubt that people respond better to positive sounding words, making it easier to manage social interactions. Keeping this in mind, avoid using negative words wherever possible. Instead, use a positive equivalent along with a negative helping verb. Here are some examples:
It’s a bad idea to call her at this time of the night.
It isn’t a good idea to call her at this time of the night.
I find him so boring.
I don’t find him interesting.
I think this project report is useless.
I don’t think this project report is useful.
You will fail the exam if you don’t prepare well.
You won’t pass the exam if you don’t prepare well.
We’ll be back shortly with more suggestions on how to sound polite when speaking English.